Marissa Butler smiled as she watched her 7-month-old son, Ramsey, kick and coo while listening to music coming from his play mat Tuesday at their home in Alvaton.
“You’re so silly,” she told the baby as his face lit up with a big grin. “I see you.”
Butler picked up Ramsey, placed him on her lap and watched as he looked wide-eyed at everything in front of him.
“I love the wonder in their eyes,” she said.
It was a moment that Butler wasn’t always sure she would see. Ramsey was born at almost 26 weeks gestation at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville. That’s 14 weeks earlier than a full-term pregnancy, which lasts 40 weeks.
“He’s our first child. We didn’t know what to compare it to,” she said. “We got a crash course on how to take care of him. It’s kind of good we didn’t know all the risks, but at the same time to be able to share a positive story.”
The Butlers are sharing their story as the Bowling Green ambassador family for the March of Dimes, and the family will participate in the organization’s March for Babies. The walk, which helps raise money for research and programs for the March of Dimes, will begin with registration at 9 a.m. Saturday at Phil Moore Park followed by the walk at 10 a.m. The event will be held rain or shine.
“We want to do anything we can to spread awareness,” Butler said. “We want to give families a ray of hope.”
The family’s team, called Team Ramsey, has raised more than $3,000 so far, Butler said.
“We have family from here and Nashville coming,” she said. “He’ll be in his stroller.”
There are currently 300 people preregistered for this weekend’s March for Babies, but organizers are anticipating between 500 and 800 people, said Mandy Kucela, March of Dimes Barren River Division director.
“It’s our largest fundraising event. We’re looking at $60,000 brought in from the walk,” she said. “Company and family teams get together and raise money for the cause. We ask that walkers make a donation to support the cause. It all goes to the March of Dimes.”
The organization’s mission is to prevent premature birth, infant mortality and birth defects, Kucela said.
“In Kentucky, we have more premature births than the number of freshmen enrolled at (the University of Louisville) and (the University of Kentucky) combined,” she said.
The mission isn’t just about helping babies born too early, Kucela said.
“It’s about all babies,” she said. “We want to help all babies have a healthy chance at life.”
Butler had no indication that Ramsey would be born early.
“I was having a completely normal pregnancy,” she said. “I had no complications. He had strong heartbeat.”
One evening in September, Butler was preparing dinner when she felt that her water might have broken.
“By the time I got to The Medical Center to wait on my husband, Shane, to park the car, my water had definitely broken,” she said. “I didn’t lose all my fluid. I wanted to get to 34 weeks.”
Butler was sent to Vanderbilt, which would be better equipped to care for a micro-preemie. Butler’s labor was held off for a few more days, but on Sept. 20 she woke up with a fever and other flu-like symptoms.
“They hooked me up to a monitor,” she said. “By the middle of the morning, they could tell he was being affected by my illness.”
Ramsey was born by cesarean section and weighed in at 2 pounds, 2 ounces.
“It was the scariest but happiest moment of my life at the same time,” Butler said. “It was fear completely balanced by faith.”
When Butler marveled at how tiny her son was, the staff told her that they had seen smaller babies.
“The (neonatal intensive care unit) was constantly reassuring us. We could tell they were very experienced with this,” she said. “They didn’t sugarcoat anything. Yes, he had a struggle, but there were many others who struggled harder.”
Ramsey stayed at Vanderbilt’s NICU for nearly seven weeks before being transported back to The Medical Center, where he stayed for seven weeks. He was able to go home four days before Christmas – five days before his original due date. He is doing well, Butler said.
“I just got to meet him a little earlier,” she said. “I got to look into his eyes a little earlier.”
Some of the knowledge, technology and skill used in the NICU are results of March of Dimes research, Butler said.
“The more donations the March of Dimes gets now, they more they can help NICUs across the country,” she said.
— For more information about March for Babies, call 746-5111 or visit www.marchforbabies.org.